Is It Legal to Do EMDR on Yourself — And When to Seek Professional Therapy
- Keilyn Goatley
- Sep 30
- 3 min read

Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing, or EMDR, is a therapy method used to help people process painful memories and trauma. It’s gained attention for how effective it can be in reducing distress, but many people wonder: Is it legal to do EMDR on yourself? The short answer is yes, it’s not against the law. The real question is whether it’s safe, effective, or recommended without guidance from a trained therapist. At Still Waters Therapy, clients often bring this up, and it opens a bigger conversation about when professional support makes a difference.
What EMDR Really Involves
In a typical session, EMDR is done with a therapist who has been trained and certified. The therapist asks you to focus on a troubling memory while guiding you through bilateral stimulation, like eye movements or tapping. This helps your brain reprocess the memory so it becomes less overwhelming. While the idea seems simple, there’s a lot of preparation that goes into making sure the process is safe. For example, therapists teach grounding skills, calming techniques, and ways to handle strong emotions before starting the reprocessing phase.
Trying EMDR alone can leave someone stuck in the hardest part of the process without the tools to recover. That’s why, while it may be legal, it’s rarely advised.
Why Self-EMDR Isn’t the Same as Therapy
Doing EMDR by yourself can seem tempting. After all, you know your own mind and memories better than anyone else. But trauma work is complicated, and without support, there’s a risk of emotional flooding or retraumatization. A therapist provides structure, safety, and objectivity. They notice patterns, help you regulate emotions, and guide the process so you’re not left overwhelmed.
At Still Waters Therapy, EMDR is offered as part of a larger treatment plan. It’s not just about reprocessing memories but also about building resilience, addressing anxiety and depression, and helping clients reconnect with themselves and others.
Safer Alternatives for Self-Help
If you’re looking for ways to support your healing outside of therapy sessions, there are safe and effective practices you can use. Some examples include:
Journaling prompts to explore feelings in a structured way.
Breathing exercises that reduce stress and calm the body.
Grounding techniques, such as focusing on the senses when anxiety spikes.
Individual therapy activities for adults, such as art projects, mindfulness walks, or gratitude lists.
These tools aren’t replacements for trauma therapy, but they can complement your work with a professional and give you healthier ways to cope day to day.
Trauma-Informed Care Matters
One reason EMDR is so powerful in therapy is that it’s practiced within a trauma-informed framework. That means therapists understand how trauma affects the brain and body, and they create a safe environment for healing. This is also something nursing students and future healthcare workers need to learn. Teaching nursing students about trauma-informed care helps them better support patients who may carry hidden wounds, ensuring compassion and understanding in all areas of healthcare.
Couples Therapy and EMDR
Sometimes trauma shows up in relationships. Couples often seek help when trust has been broken, and EMDR can play a role here, too. At Still Waters Therapy, clinicians may integrate EMDR into couples therapy for trust issues, especially when one partner’s past trauma is impacting the relationship.
Many people also ask about couples therapy cost. It varies depending on the provider, location, and whether insurance covers part of it. While therapy is an investment, rebuilding trust and connection in a relationship is often worth far more than the financial cost. The focus is on creating a safe space where both partners feel heard and supported.
When to Seek Professional Help
So, back to the main question: is it legal to do EMDR on yourself? Yes, it is. But legality doesn’t equal safety or effectiveness. If you’re dealing with deep trauma, intense anxiety, or overwhelming emotions, professional therapy is the better path. At Still Waters Therapy, EMDR is guided with care, preparation, and follow-up so that healing can happen in a stable and supportive way.
If you’ve been considering EMDR or are curious about whether it’s right for you, reaching out to a therapist is the first step. You don’t have to navigate trauma alone, and with the right guidance, healing is possible.
Trying to heal on your own can feel like the only option, but therapy provides tools and support you can’t get by yourself. Whether it’s through EMDR, learning self-help activities, or seeking couples therapy to repair trust, the goal is always the same: to help you feel more grounded, connected, and hopeful about the future. If you’re ready, Still Waters Therapy is here to walk that journey with you.
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